I аm extremely shy whеn I first meet people, thеn I get used tο thеm іn аbουt a day аnd I саn јυѕt bе myself. bυt I hаνе a really hard time јυѕt getting over mу shyness tο talk tο people.
ѕο hοw саn I become more confident аnd outgoing?
whаt kinds οf things ѕhουld I ѕау tο people whеn I meet thеm?
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Ellaaaa
741 days ago
I am very shy as well, but nowhere near as I used to be. After I finished high school 7 months ago, I started at a small college. I was literally so so nervous my first day and would not talk to anyone. It’s now four months later and I have never felt more confident. My advice to you is to get a job or join a club, it will honestly help you. I have friends now in my tafe class and so many people have told how much I have come out of my shell in the last 4 months. It’s crazy how much I have changed. You need to be more independent. I was basically very sheltered, and as soon as I started in the real world, things changed. I had to start catching trains by myself and talking to people I didn’t know. My old familiar routine was broken and I was FORCED to try new things. I was so bad that I didn’t even want to learn to drive because I was scared people would be LOOKING at me. I would avoid my friends (lost them all) and so much more.
Here are some links to my old questions when I used to be crazy shy:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avb1SIy.uC0YJzt65N_Gw9fty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090208035758AAsVRtI
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avb1SIy.uC0YJzt65N_Gw9fty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081110204121AAAM3G7
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvSk_tQxU7URU9KNjCnfIyvty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081028012241AA1GvcJ
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjVr5jNNgB1mQPeM.i43qCHty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081001061256AAJDhyd
You get the idea. I am not like this at all anymore. I am way more confident, I NEVER thought it was possible… but I guess it was. I thought everyone hated me but people actually like me. It amazes me everyday how much I have changed… its crazy.
So get yourself out there… things will eventually change for you… promise
if it did for me, it can for anyone!
Beautiful Mess
741 days ago
Yea, I’m the same way :-\ Which is apparently causing problems (view link below).. I guess you just got to walk up and start talking, hah. I mean that’s all you can do. Walk up and be like "so, white horse?" good convo starter!
Good luck!
RJ
741 days ago
Slap em in the face and tell somebody to shut up. Worked for me
Tyler
741 days ago
just tell them that when you first meet them that your kinda shy…. they wont care if you tell them
starz.
741 days ago
im like that all the time, i just dont know what to say at all …
Chase
741 days ago
you are not really suppose to change who you are. if its the norm that’s making you change things, i say dont. every person has his/her own way of being happy. it doesnt mean that if you become outgoing you’ll be happier.
but if you just wanna try it out, just go asking friends if you can hangout with them, and if you dont got any, i say join some organizations that are pretty active and will encourage you to do it.
goodluck
◘Jojo◘
741 days ago
Do sumthin crazy & after you’ll feel a rush of adrenalin that’s probably when your not shy. Im shy usually and i do that…and then i can talk to whoever it feels like
Meghan
741 days ago
You don’t need to change yourself sweetheart. Your shyness is what makes you "you".
You can always go over to a person and say "Hi my name is (insert name), and compliment them on an item that they are wearing or say that you’re new to the activity that you are attending.
But just presenting yourself with a smile is all you need to do.
But being you is important so don’t change yourself to "fit in". You’ll never truly be happy with yourself if you do
reklawrnnr
741 days ago
Just be kind and friendly and most people will open up to you and make you feel more comfortable. Realize that if you’re a good person and just act like yourself, people will like you right off the bat.
You’re likely shy cause you’re worried about what people are going to think about you. If you smile, say hello, shake their hand and introduce yourself they will not think bad about you. Ask questions about them, cause people like talking about themselves, but nothing too personal at first unless they seem more than willing to share it.
Good luck!
Sara
741 days ago
i think you should take steps to go outside of your comfort zone. i’m shy as well, and i find the best way to overcome it is just to start a conversation with anyone and everyone. like people you see out and about every day, say hello or ask a friendly question…it usually makes the situation brighter and you end up feeling better about yourself..over time you become more comfortable with speaking to people and that should help you! hope that works