How can i become more social?

One easy way is amazingly simple. Look for the social pages of your town or college newspaper. A special concert, speech, art exhibit, car show, rodeo, or just a fund raiser for a local group. Eat the pancakes at some church youth group some Saturday morning (your gift will cost you less than the popcorn in a movie and still be a fair contribution). Eat some chili at some civic group cook-off. Listen to some new bands at a coffee shop. In the process, be confident and relaxed in who you are. Simply say sincere expressions of hello, thank you, that was good, can I help. Just left an event, went for coffee nearby, and happened to see others that you recognized seeing at the event? Casually stroll by and say honest things like, "Was that — good?" and keep moving. These things won’t happen for very long before some time, some place, some one will agree and invite you to talk some more.

If you see someone from these kinds of overt but casual socializing and they are alone and lonely but you don’t stop to talk with them or ask to sit with them, then you are still flunking your sociability project.

My brotha,

Join a Fraternity…

Ask people in your class to study with you…

Buy a handle and ask co-workers to come do work on it with you…

Sell Drugs…

Go Clubbing…

Listen… If you wanna be more social you have to put yourself out there! You can expect people to come into your life if you sit at home and play Modern Warfare : 2 all day.

Ok look man, here’s the secret:

Love yourself and respect yourself.

Do you do both of these? If not, how can you improve? Are you happy with your weight, looks, grades, money? If not, how can you improve these? Once you can love and respect yourself, people will follow suit, and you’ll gain confidence naturally.

Also, go out more – take more risks, talk to more people. Flirt with the girl that serves you a coffee, ask a stranger for directions, talk to a guy at in the electronics department about TVs – anything, just become more outgoing. You’ll learn more and more about yourself when you open up to others.

Good luck man, you’ve already made a big step just by posting this – you aren’t a coward that’s for sure.

This reminds me a lot of myself, and my close friend, he’s almost in his 20s. You kinda have to push yourself, in a metaphorical sense. Try getting of the computer, and out into the physical world, where you can meet people, get a job like in retail, or a job where you have to sell a certain product to someone. You’ll never meet new people if you don’t make the effort to, people won’t become your friend if they don’t know you, or don’t have a reason to. This is coming from a pretty anti-social person myself, but I’ve watched the human species for 18 years, they’re not too hard to figure out. They just want to be loved, and know others, so that they are not alone.

It sounds like you are trying. Maybe talk to some more people in your classes that seem more like the type to go out. Sit next to them a few times then mention going to a place to study, from there you can build a relationship. Also do you have a fake id? that makes meeting people easy. Go to a bar and just start mingling. Dont be nervous because if you say something wrong or get nervous you arent friends with these people yet and you dont ever have to see them if you dont want to. Go to your school sporting events, even if by yourself a few times and join a volunteer group or extracurricular that way you meet more people and have more opportunites to make friends.

In regards to the friends you seem to have now. Tell them you want to do a study session or something at someones house and then say someone should grab some beers or something so they know you are trying to hang out. Just keep trying and dont give up. It sounds like you have a good attitude and I am sure you will make friends in no time. It sounds like your in college…go live it up!!!!

Go and work in a pub. It’s a great place to meet people and get known in the community.