I’ve never really bееn аn outgoing person. It hаѕ become more apparent аt work bесаυѕе I ‘m ѕο withdrawn. Aѕ a result mу co-workers feed οff mу actions аnd wіll nοt socialize wіth mе. Alѕο, thеіr rumors floating around thаt aren’t trυе whісh οnlу fuels thе gossip mill. Anу advice οn hοw tο remedy mу situation?
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justjbk
851 days ago
For most people, the best thing to make yourself more approachable is to exude confidence. But, in your case, the anti-social vibes you’ve been giving off have to be dealt with before you can take the more ‘be confident and they’ll come to you approach’.
So, here’s some suggestions;
People like to be complimented. It’s a fact. Find something to compliment your coworkers about everyday. Whether it’s the job they’re doing, the way they’re dressed….anything.
Make a point of stopping and having a conversation with at least one person a day. Even if it’s about something stupid like the weather. My dad took Toast Masters classes to overcome his extreme shyness, it’s an idea you could look in to.
Even though it sounds corny and goes back to the beginning of this fairly long answer, when you walk around your work place, be confident. Put a smile on your face, hold your head up high and think happy thoughts. People read body language subconsciously, and if you’re shuffling around miserably, not making eye contact and in your own world, the gossip is gonna keep flying, and your work place isn’t going to get any better.
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851 days ago
Try hanging out with more people and try to join in the conversations and you will get better over time! It takes lots of efforts and practice, but the mail key is "Confidence!" About your Coworkers, don’t pay them no minds! Who cares what they say or thinks! People will always have things to say about other! Do what’s best for you and your loved ones! Good luck!
Jeanmarie
851 days ago
Being social is an art. Read, buy some books, learn.
This is what I did.
First off listen to people. Then repeat part of what they say back to you and they know you are listening.
Also ask about people-they love to talk about themselves. So, you planning any vacations this year? Do you have any kids? Women like to talk about relationships, men their jobs. Ask women about family-mean about work. Now I’m generalizing!
Just buy some books and you will learn, I did. I’m not afraid to talk to anyone.