How do I become more outgoing and accepting of myself?

cheerleading…

.. i hate it personally, but those girls seem to encompass exactly what you are looking for

Start out with just holding your head up and making eye contact with people with a smile ( you don’t have to look excited just a slight closed mouth smile and a head nod like HI. And then you will soon be able say Hi out loud and people will see that you are friendly.

Give yourself a small challenge–like saying "HI" and smiling to 2 new people a day. After a while you’ll be the "friendly, smiley girl" and people will respond in kind. Soon it will be easier to open up. Another good way is to join a club–it’s a little easier in small groups to get to know people and be yourself. Make sure it’s a club that you are really interested in! Have fun and good luck!

daily affirmation. Look at yourself in the mirror every day, and tell yourself that you are special, that you are good enough, and that people really like you. When you go to school everyday, just know that it’s ok to speak to people. And don’t try to put others on a pedestal. Just because you are fond of somebody at school does not mean that they are liked by everybody. The best bet is that if they talk a lot and are very outgoing, that there are a lot of people who don’t like them. People will always think highly of you as long as they don’t know too much about you. I bet that they think you are very smart because you don’t talk a lot.

Sometimes, having a friend to hang out with, can be very helpful, cause it can bring you around naturally. In the meantime, I would suggest saying Hi, or just smile, & it just will start to come natural. Hope this helps you out.

I have been very introvert at school as well and know how it feels.

If you want to be yourself around others it is very important that you accept yourself the way you are. Become aware about your strenghts and start to love yourself. If you do so others will realise that and become more interested in you.

Perhaps the reason why you feel shy is that you think others don’t like you. This is usually a misperception and,moreover, it is not a helpful way of thinking.

If you talk to somebody don’t think about what this person might think about you, instead just act. It does not matter what this person thinks about you. Say to yourself: If you respond positively to me, I will be happy, if you don’t that’s ok as well! Nobody is obliged to like me!

If you would like to get to know somebody just smile and say Hi! and see how the conversation develops. don’t think too much in advance about what to say. just do it! From my experience it’s a good idea to start a conversation with a simple question about something you both have a common interest in, …an issue that the other person is likely to be interested in talking about. e.g. "What do you think about…?" "How did you find…?"

if you practice chatting with others regularly you will over time become more comfortable and confident doing so and thereby also become more self-confident!

pray and ask God to give you these qualities

exercise it sounds crazy but people that exercise how higher esteem and naturally feel better then people who dont. if that doesnt work write down all the positive things you like about yourself inside and out, use those things to help boost your spirts.

Fake it. That is, pretend to be confident. Force yourself to talk to people. Practice, like, when you’re at a store, compliment the cashier on his/her shirt, smile, etc. Smile and say hello to people you don’t know. If you keep faking it, soon you’ll start to believe it.

Basically, just fake it. All you have to do is be able to know about what it is they’re talking about and say something that hasn’t been said yet.

It’s like how I got good at foosball. I pretended I knew how to play.

Sometimes shyness means that you are self-conscious. To overcome this, dress and do your hair the best that you can and then forget about how you look. Join some school clubs that you’re interested in. Get in the habit of occasionally giving someone a sincere compliment. Be interested in others and that will help you forget your shyness.

confidence, confidence, confidence

just do it. te longer you think about anything the more time you give yourself to talk yourself out of it.

I was like that when I was 15. Then I got a job at the counter taking orders at Dairy Queen and I had to communicate with costumers and co- workers and I eventually came out of my shell. I loved my job and had a lot of friends there to help me to be more social. It takes time- don’t get discouraged girl! The right group of friends help! Just smile and relax – no one is judging you.

love yourself first,when you do that and become at peace with who you are and the person you are becoming you will allow others to love you back and accept what and who you really are,been confident don’t hurt either

well just start out by talking to people in your class. have you gone to school with them for a while? You could ask them questions like "how do you do this" or "can I borrow ur…" and you can just start conversations! Don’t worry what people will thin! It’s better to be loud than to hide yourself! Be bold and brave!!

just be more confident

okay.
accepting yourself- you have to believe. if you play a sport or an instrument or paint, you have to believe that its gonna be good enough, or that you’re okay.

as long as being outgoing, be happy all the time, introduce yourself to new people. go to parties, have a good time. dress totally rediculous.

I was shy at one time…then I tried to be what my friends wanted me to be, and was unhappy about who I had become. The advice I have to offer…just be you. Don’t be afraid of what other people think and try new things. Find something that makes you happy and then you’ll find yourself opening up more. Good luck!

just be yourself if you try to be different people will see afake.ill bet whenyou are not around your friends tell each other they wish they were like you..you heard this from olddog and that is all im going to say about it

trust yourself

You need to realize that the world doesnt revolve around you. Being shy is really just a form of selfishness. Trust me, i was so painfully shy in school that kids made fun of me.

You just assume that no one wants to like you, that you’re not good enough to be liked, that you dont know anything, you’re not cool enough. And its selfish, all about you and what people think of you.

You should try realizing that it doesnt matter what other people think about you, but what you think about other people. Everyone needs a friend, and everyone needs to be treated kindly and with thoughfulness.

Honestly, in the long run, people will never remember you for being shy, they’ll never remember you for being a nerd, for being uncool, for being ugly or whatever you think your problem is.

I know because i was that person in school that everyone hated and made fun of… and all these years later, those people usually dont even remember who i was. let alone how they treated me.

What people do remember is your smile, your kindness, how caring you are about others, and your ability to be friends with people.

When you realize that people need YOU, you dont need people, you find youself with all sorts of confidence. You dont make friends because you need them to feel valuable, you make friends with people because you can see where they need a friend to understand and care about them.

Its all in your head, and it has nothing to do with how people react to you, or treat you, its how you react to that treatment and to them. Just go out there and live your life to have fun, and to be fun for other people. you dont need their acceptance. You can accept yourself without their approval.

hey i am in the same situation

just be yourself

and smile a lot! that helps me because when i smile, i look inviting

~jesus christ~

I had the exact same problem in middle school, and I’m still a bit shy and bashful, but people love me for who I am. And when I want to be, I can be funny, make people laugh, tell stories, but I’ve always been more independent. I have my reasons from over the years but just talk to more people when you have the chance, and trust me, people will listen. I used to feel like I was constantly being judged by others, but in the end people are so caught up with their own lives, they’re gonna forget if you said something stupid or embarrassed yourself. There’s a great saying that you probably know that may have no validity to you whatsoeve: "None of this will matter in 10 years" But it’s completely true, and even though you are busy living your life right now, be social, even though it might be difficult at first. You sound like a really smart person who deserves to enjoy their young years… I mean I’m fourteen and I promis myself that freshman year in highschool I will make a bunch of new friends. Get into a team sport and get to know people, than branch off from there. Once you notice how many people really do like you, your confidence will boost and you’ll be completely fine.

First decide do you want Mental stimulation, or Emotional connections ….. or both . Then look into your own Mind for what you and it like and dislike and what you already find interesting and enjoyable then seek by listen, and watching, for like Minded people it’ll flow naturally….being yourself & growing too. With the Heart too, same thing . WE all are alittle unsure of ourselve’s in way’ s . Just be honest with yourself first , move ahead slowly in your comfort zone … people care & do understand .

Hi
I’ve always been a very introverted and insecure person myself. Obviously, I have no idea where your coming from spiritually. I can only tell you what has worked for me. The closer I get to God and accept His love, the less insecure I am. It has also helped that He lead me to an awesome church with totally supportive friends. Having friends that are truly excited to see you when you walk up is an amazing feeling. Now that I’m overcoming my insecurities, I’m realizing that I had friends like that before, I was just to focused on myself to see it. I always thought I was insecure because of all the rejection I felt….. truth is… I felt all the rejection (some real, most in my own head) because I was insecure. Something else that has really helped me is finding other people who are hurting and helping them. You truly do reap what you sow.

I believe you’re trying to hard to be who you’re not,just be you’re self and you will be okay if someone asks you something answer form the best of your ability if you need to know something ask and other then that it’s okay to just be around and just lesson.i say that because I’ve been there the harder i use to try to fit in the worst it seem to get it’s okay to be different and in time it will change.

I also have a big problem with confidence..it sucks!!

Speak the truth & you’ll usually get the truth. Be real & don’t play games with people. If you do play game, then stop & you will see a big difference in how you are treated by others. Take baby steps (one step at a time). Slowly do things that you are not used to. Go to the movies by yourself & you might see some one you know or maybe you’ll meet someone to talk to AFTER the movie. Go to social places, like coffee houses & poetry readings. Go to the Library. You’ll discover a whole new world. Volunteer in the childrens reading section & read stories to children (they won’t judge you). Make someone’s day by giving them a freshly picked flower. Just walk up to them, hand it over & walk away. You can say "Here, this is for you….just because!" Have fun with life & it will reward you in the strangest ways. You’ll get there when the time is right, You can’t force these things on yourself!

Hey! I’m kinda shy like you and believe me, I know what you go through! Ever since… hmm, late years in elementary school! I’m going to be a sophomore in high school now, and I’m getting some confidence now. Here are some things I did to try to get out of my shell and be a bit more outgoing (they may prove helpful to you!). There’s an MUN program at school (it’s like the United Nations — high school style, but still with an air of professionalism). I joined it immediately… the writing and research for it was pretty easy, and I got to meet and even make friends with people from other local high schools. You should try to make a big step forward and join a club, be it at school or at your church. You’ll feel comfortable once you meet other people, like I have done. I confess that I am VERY SHY, but that’s starting to shake off ever since I turned freshman; I also joined golf. I got to meet others there that were fun to be around with, and we’re still cool. Also, don’t be too afraid to tell your friends about your problem with shyness. I told one of my closest friends and she said it was okay, since she used to be shy, but now with time she’s like, the most out-gioing-est and hyper person I’ve ever met! SO while you’re waiting for time to make you an outgoing person (I’ll be waiting for it too, don’t worry!), try to do some thing that’s new for you, and have lots of fun with it. First time I tried golf I was SO BAD, but now I’m getting better, and might even join varsity! So, join a club with your friends, try out for sports, and in time, you’ll be a happy person!!

I also had a similar type of problem when I was younger so about 20 years ago I decided to re invent my self and realise when somebody was coming on to me in a club sometimes I made an idiot of myself but it gave me lots of self confidence when it worked out OK hope this helps

quit trying so hard. quit trying to impress others.

I suggest get out and about, do what you enjoy doing, and you’ll meet others who have your same interests.

When you quit trying, that when things start happening

and feeling sorry for yourself wont help

Just become more accepting of others and you will become more outgoing at the same time.