I get told I'm too shy, how can i be more outgoing?

I’m shy too. But I force myself to be chatty, otherwise people might think that you are boring, even if it’s not the case.

Please don’t because it’s okay to be shy you don’t want to be like something your not. Your friends will just have to like you the way you are or get new friends.

Im on the same boat abt being shy… its nothing wrong with that, my mom is trying to get me into girly activities lmao I crush every girls dream in those "clubs" so do what you love… even if it keeps you shy or reserved

I can so relate to what you’re talking about.

Maybe sign up for a theatre or speech class – they helped open me up!

Just start branching out more. Invite people over. It is the summer. Have cookouts with a alot of people. Live laugh and love. Show your friends you aren’t shy by getting a group of friends together and having fun. The more you do the more you will feel more outgoing. You will become outgoing. Hope this helps.

Well shy people are cool i think… but if you want, go walk around in the rain

About 3 years ago, I started feeling extremely conscious of myself being "shy", not being as open, loud, spontaneous and lively as my friends, and it really took a knock at my self-esteem.

I just want to tell you before I say anything else, never try to be something you’re not, okay? This year especially, (I’m 16 now) I realized my "shyness" wasn’t really a fault at all. I realized I enjoy my own company, and I’m just not inclined to throw out my personality in huge loud bouts. If you are more introverted, be PROUD of it! Introverts are typically very intelligent, caring, people with a variety of interests. Ever since I stopped worrying about friends, I had time to think and develop an identity. Do all the things I want to, without the approval of others. The best advice I can give you in life is just not to give a shizer about little things like this. ^ –

If you’re having doubts that changing is the entirely right thing to do, then don’t do it. At a time last year, I felt so uncomfortable with my quiet personality I took on too many things at once to change that I was under so much pressure. But if you’re motivated and sure, I suggest you try this:
- For starters, greet people (anyone!) and make small talk with them. Its always great to come across as friendly.
- When you see something funny or interesting on Tv or wherever, remember it and bring it up as a conversation topic.
-Don’t turn down any opportunities to go out, and you could even ask your friends to introduce you to new people (but in a group, so that it isn’t as awkward)
-Practice speaking in front of the mirror. This is a great way to observe your body language. Remember, always be open by smiling (Important!), standing straight, making eye contact, and not crossing your arms.
-Ultimatey, practice is the only thing that makes a big difference. Becoming more outgoing won’t happen overnight, and KEEP TRYING!

To any decision you made, good luck and have fun!

Go to polls and surveys and answer questions so you get good at answering random questions. Write down questions that are fun and interesting to you. Y/A has an entertainment section with categories like jokes and riddles and polls and surveys. It is always good to have a good joke, so copy them down so you don’t forget the punch line. Polls and surveys has a lot of good questions and they change all the time, so it is a good source for questions to ask when the conversations stall.
Where’s the last place you would want to be seen?
What scares you the most?
Scariest/weirdest dream you ever had?
If you could reverse time, what would you do differently?
What’s going through your mind right now?
Tell me something fun about yourself?
What’s the best dream you ever had?
What makes you happy?
Do you ever get a song stuck in your head? What song?
How has the recession affected you, your family?
Tell me about a personal experience in your life?
How many countries have you been to? What was your favorite one?
What is your favorite kind of food, Italian, Chinese, French, Mexican….?
What is your favorite movie, song, book?
When have you felt the most lost?
What was your favorite pet?
What is the most expensive/strangest thing you ever bought?
Where’s the strangest place you ever fell asleep?
What is the longest amount of time you ever stayed awake, and for what reason?
Have you ever done anything on a dare?
Have you ever walked into the wrong public restroom?
If you could teach the world to sing, what song would you choose?
If you were born the opposite sex, what would you have been named?
What gift do you wish you had been born with?
What’s an assumption people make about you, that couldn’t be more wrong?
What’s the one thing you would like to do that would shock your friends and family?
If you could be any character in a movie, who would you be?
What has disappointed you most in life?
If it wasn’t for modern medical intervention, would you still be alive today?

Seems you are a bit introverted. But being shy is normal. You find peace and harmony by being quit. To change yourself into an outgoing is considered rebellion against your real identity. Yes, you are being dictated by your ego to socialize because thats the function of our ego to make you part of the society. Ego is against individualist but too much ego will deprive your real identity . We are being mislead by social norms that we should be outgoing, funny etc.since majority of the population is in favor of loud, bubbly person. But it does not mean that we should conform with the societies expectations. Be yourself, don’t feel inferior if your quite. You have place in the society because quite persons have lots of good traits like being sincere, trustworthy,analytical, independent, focused, creative, etc.

On otherhand, bit by bit you can learn to be more interesting as already mentioned above. You can use your skills in socializing when needed but most of the time you have tendency to go back to you real identity.

"No one makes you inferior without your consent".

Don’t let other people change you! If YOU really want to be outgoing than let your feelings go, don’t be afraid of anything or anyone. People may intimidate you but don’tt let them! I am a very outgoing, Spazzy person