I hаνе 5 month οld twins Marie аnd Idris
I haven’t really gotten out much ѕіnсе thеу wеrе born ѕіnсе I don’t lіkе leaving thеm alot bυt mу bf’s mom thіnk I ѕhουld ѕtаrt leaving thеm аt her house οn thе weekends ѕіnсе ѕhе doesn’t feel lіkе ѕhе gets enough one οn one (οr one οn two whatever) time wіth thеm аnd alot οf people thіnk I ѕhουld get out more
whаt dο y’аll thіnk
Sorry wanted tο рυt more deatails whеn I first wrote thіѕ bυt I hаd tο gο
Mе аnd Cayo (bf) don’t lіkе thе stay thе whole weekend іdеа bυt Cayo thіnk thеу сουld spend thе whole day thеrе
Cayo іѕ thе baby’s dad
Wе aren’t married аnd wе′ve bееn dating over a year bυt before wе ѕtаrtеd dating wеrе best best best friends fοr 9 years. Wе live іn a condo hіѕ mom owns bυt ѕhе lives іn a house near υѕ. Wе hаνе a gοοd relationship. I LOVE hіѕ mom аnd trust her wіth thе babies ѕο thаt isn’t thе problem. I аm breastfeeding. I don’t know іf I саn get tο her quickly depends whеrе I аm bυt ѕhе′s οnlу 10-15 minutes away frοm ουr house. Cayo spends alot οf time wіth thеm bυt hе still
goes out more οftеn thаn mе.
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Helga
467 days ago
Are you married to your children’s father? If not, how long have the two of you been dating? Do you live with your husband/boyfriend or are you living with your parents? If you live with your boyfriend, how is your relationship with him, how close are you to his mom? Are you breast feeding? If you leave them with her, would you have difficulty getting back to them within a few minutes? Does the father of your children spend time with them?
I am a mom. Many questions come to mind and I believe much that needs to be said, isn’t. You should seriously consider the above questions. Only you know the inner workings of your relationship with your children’s dad and his family. All I am saying is that if there is cause for concern, be cautious.
Now then. I seriously question why his mom wants to keep them for weekends. And why would you consider leaving them for 2 days? If you live with your parents, why have they not offered to care for your little ones for at least 1 1/2 hours on a Saturday or Sunday? The reason I say 1 1/2 hours is because if you haven’t been away from your children since they were born, when you take time for yourself, within 45 minutes you will long for them and will head back home to be with them.
I realize you would like to spend time with your friends; but, your time is now divided by 2. An occasional hour or two for self is ok when you are within minutes of your little ones. Any duration above that is not good.
rockandrollrev
467 days ago
Yes I do think you should get out more, then you can come back refreshed and be happy to be with your lovely children. Cant you leave some of the breast milk behind for emergencies? or, feed them before you go out for the evening, if leaving them the whole day, well, either as I said, leave milk behind or, go out locally and then you can get back there when needed.
It is wonderful to be a devoted Mother but even Mother’s need a little me time
SugarCat
467 days ago
No! You should not leave your babies for the weekend! That suggestion is very selfish of your boyfriend’s mother. The babies’ needs come first–not your bf mother’s! Babies need their mothers. Your babies will know if you aren’t around. They are bonded with you and your presence makes them feel safe, secure and loved. Your bf’s mother may be a great mom, but she is not their mom. They need you, not her.
It is ok for you to leave the babies with her for a few hours once or twice a week, but not for a whole weekend.
It is unbelievable to me that she would suggest getting rid of you for the weekend so she could have the babies to herself! How rude!
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467 days ago
You need a break sometimes. Even if it is just for a few hours while you take so me time, hit the gym or go to the mall. So many new moms I know seem to get stuck not allowing anyone to offer help or take even an hour away from their baby. I think that is unhealthy and a lot of them show it in their bodies and tired looking faces.
Alexis
467 days ago
its okay to go out on the weekends every now and then.
Kelly
467 days ago
If you trust her and she is willing to watch your kids, then by all means you should go out and enjoy yourself sometimes! Just make sure to watch how often you go out, because you need to keep in mind that they are your children, not hers. And that you are the one ultimately responsible for raising them. So I don’t think you should leave them there every weekend, but once in a while would be good for you and probably good for her and your kids as well. She’s their grandmother, and they do need some bonding time.